Having Goals vs Achieving Goals
It turns out that when many people are studied over a lengthy period, there is a significant difference between those to set goals and those that both set goals and achieve them.
A recent study took 5000 people over 12 months where each had a specific goal they wanted to achieve within a year, whether related to relationship, lifestyle, study or wealth.
Of the 5000, only 10% actually achieved their goals. And those 10% behaved remarkably differently to those who did not attain their goals, and did so in two distinct ways. This was not about what they did, but what they did not do.
They did not spend much time thinking about the bad things in their lives or the problems they had.
They did NOT spend a great deal of time fantasising how good it would feel to have attained their goal. They spent vastly more time than the others considering how they were going to go about attaining their goal. That is, they focused on the process, on the journey, not exclusively on the end result. (Sorry to those of you who read “The Secret”, basically it does not work).
Ref: Richard Wiseman “59 Seconds: Think a Little, Change A Lot” (MacMillan, London, 2009).